Saturday, January 9, 2010

"I love you" - What does it really mean?

I realize that in my life, on a daily basis, I say "I love you" quite a bit.

I've had a lot of friends throughout my life who save their "I love you's" for special occasions, or for what they'd call "true friends" or family. I understand that, to a point. But, why reserve love? Why hold back? Why not just let yourself feel it, and say it, and feel it again when it's said back?

What does it mean, "I love you"? For some people I think it means, "have a good day", or "take care", or "goodbye, talk to ya later". I just finished a chat with a good friend of mine, and at the end of it, we both said our "I love you's". I'm pretty sure it meant just that, especially because this particular friend was one of those who, at times, reserves the statement for important people. How do I feel about that? Important.

Does "I love you" mean more from people who reserve it for the "special" ones in their lives?

What do I mean when I say "I love you"? Sometimes I mean that I love your spirit, your humor, your beauty, your smile, your friendship, your caring heart. Sometimes I mean I love that we can relate about something. Sometimes I mean I love that you love me. But, regardless, I always mean it. And I say it A LOT.

There are infinite ways to love. There is infinite opportunity to love. It is the most important thing in the world, to love someone or something.

Are there different degrees of love? Or is love just love. I love my cat. I love my family. I love my friends. I love my cozy bed. Shall we lump them all together, or do we somehow create a love chart to define the difference, the importance of each thing loved? I could never say I love one person more than another person, even though I might like one more than another. But, a love-ranking system for people just seems like it's missing the point. Either you love someone or you don't, right?

The only thing I know for sure about love is that it's the right thing to do. No, it's not always easy, and no, it's not always fun. Sometimes it's downright awful. But for the most part, love is all we need. Love for our children, love for our friends and family. Love for ourselves. Love for our work, our home, our pets, our coffee creamer. Every bit of love we feel for, or from another thing, or what keeps us going.

If you got shot in the heart, you'd die. The heart is the symbol for love. Coincidence? If you got shot in the love, you'd surely die. For, what would be the point of living without it?

Love something or someone today - and tell them (or it) about it. Even if that means you have to say to a slice of cheese, "I love you!"

Today, I've already told the coffee pot I loved it, my cousin, and a good friend heard it too. Now I feel like calling everyone I know and saying it some more. Dr. Drew, sign me up! I have a love addiction! ;)

1 comment:

  1. I could argue both sides: love is a descriptor of an act and feeling of great magnitude, and shouldn't be taken lightly. In fact, my husband and I don't respond with "I love you, too." because it seems like an expected response. When he says he loves me, I'll say something like, "I'm the luckiest girl for that." Often I reply, "I love you." I have this thing about really intending what I say. To let him know that I'm not just absentmindedly finishing the usual dialog.
    On the other hand, I'm a firm believer in telling people that I love them when I feel it, no matter the situation. I've been known to blurt out, "Auntie, I love you!" across the Thanksgiving dinnertable, completely out of conversation. If you feel it, say it! I also believe that spreading love and positivity in one's own way is important. I've made a commitment that when I see a woman with cute shoes or a flattering haircut, to tell her. This weekend I saw a girl with the cutest jacket shopping at Costco, and I told her, "That jacket is darling on you!" She looked surprised, and then she beamed. She needed to know, and it made her happy!


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